Long lasting friendships and relationships require such intense levels of compassion and gentleness and willingness to understand on both sides like that’s what I’ve found to be the secret. Whenever I feel guilty for cutting ties with somebody I ask if they were passionate and gentle and willing to understand (not assimilate, understand) and the answer is always no and then I feel better. Because if it’s a no then your compassion and gentleness and willingness to understand will always fail to be a virtue in that space. It like works against you in the most insidious ways. Jaded - Drake.mp3 was on a loop for three hours the evening I realized that